never never argue is the “N” in BANGS
I spent years arguing with Mom and exacerbating no-win situations before I realized debate only created more anger and angst. By arguing, I became the cause of her “bad behaviour.” It wasn’t the...
View Articlethe “G” in BANGS: 5 great ways to stop dementia anger, aggression and anxiety...
Before I moved back to Canada in 2011 to live with and care for Mom, she and I had both lived alone – I for six years and she for about 20. All of a sudden we were together in a country home...
View Articlei’m sorry is hard, but it may also be the most powerful part of BANGS
It’s an afternoon in October 2015. Mom appears to be asleep in the recliner. I lean over and put my hands on either side of the chair. My face is about arms length from hers. “Patti?” I say to...
View ArticleBANGS: 5 surefire ways to stop anger and aggression in people who live with...
I knew less than zero about dementia care when I returned to Canada from Dubai in 2011 to care for my mom who lived with dementia of the Alzheimer’s type. I learned a lot in a short time; I learned...
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In spring 2016 I gave a webinar entitled “How to become a better dementia care detective” in partnership with Mike Good of Together In This. This post summarizes what we discussed in that webinar. I’ve...
View Articlealzheimer’s speaks’ lori la bey and i agree on the beauty of dementia
It’s hard for many people to believe any good can come from dementia, but those of us who have experienced transformation during the process of being a care partner to someone who lives with dementia...
View Articlehow being sorry and stupid turned mad into glad
I’ve shared parts of this story before. It’s an afternoon in October 2015. Mom appears to be asleep in the recliner when I arrive at the LTCF to visit. I lean over and put my hands on either side of...
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